We are a grassroots community-centered alliance of professionals, service providers, educators and advocates who seek to raise awareness of death and dying as a way to enrich the human experience of life and living.

IJudy Dolmatch

Judy Dolmatch, MSW, is a licensed clinical social worker, with a private practice in Ashland since 1988. She specializes in guiding people through life passages, grief, and how to live in a broken culture with awareness and truth.


Judy teaches and performs Playback Theatre, a form of improvisational theatre based on audience stories, and facilitates Zegg Forum, a group process that values authenticity and aliveness. She is part of the Ashland Death Cafe facilitation team, has volunteered with WinterSpring, and is inspired by the work of Stephen Jenkinson, Martin Prechtel, and Francis Weller. Contact her: judydolm@gmail.com or 541-708-0766.

Lily Myers Kaplan

With a Master’s degree in Culture and Spirituality, and thirty years as a an ordained non-denominational minister, Lily Myers Kaplan has made a career of guiding people to build meaning and purpose from the most challenging of life circumstances. Beyond her private practice as a soul-coach and life-cycle celebrant, Lily has been a hospice volunteer manager, the program director of a modern day mystery-school, and executive director of a non-profit family camp. Lily is the director of Spirit of Resh Foundation (www.reshfoundation.org), a Rogue Valley non-profit organization which uses story to help people build a relationship with death that informs life. 

Jennifer Mathews

Jennifer is a writer, consultant and laughter yogini with a passion for uplifting the human spirit. After her life-partner died in 2011, she began sharing her experiences of death, grief, joy and optimism to support others on their journeys (JenniferMathews.com). 


In recent years, Jennifer has worked with the community outreach and training team for the award-winning film Death Makes Life Possible. She has facilitated conversations about death and the afterlife in various communities across the USA, as well as in the UK and Ireland. Her home base is Mount Shasta, CA.

Judith Milburn

Judith is a psycho-spiritual, Jungian-oriented depth psychologist particularly concerned with making peace with one’s inner depths and learning to love one's self unconditionally, as the way to live fully and prepare for conscious dying. She says, “Death, has presented itself to me viewing my great grandmother lying in her casket in her darkened living room, hearing my grandfather before he died say he was hearing the angels sing, brushing my Mother’s hair moments after she had died, and sitting with my brother as he released his last breath.  I am a student of this Great Mystery."

Find out more at Judith Milburn.com.

Laurel Miller

Laurel is passionate about working with people, young and old, around end-of-life topics.  She completed the Anam Cara Program at the Sacred Art of Living Center.  She volunteers with Compassion and Choices working with individuals and their families as they make their end-of-life choices.  She’s a member of the Southern Oregon Hevre Kadisha.  She leads workshops that support the participant’s desire to explore themselves and the mystery of life and death.  Also a seasoned mediator, an independent coach and facilitator, Laurel is dedicated to supporting individuals and the conversations that they need to have before they are no longer able. You can reach Laurel at lmmiller101@yahoo.com

Selene Seltzer

For those facing a difficult diagnosis, Selene understands that people are more than their bodies, more than their diagnosis and wish to live as well as possible for as long as possible. As a Clinical Healthcare Chaplain specializing in a palliative approach, she advocates for and provides “whole person” care to ease pain and suffering in the body, heart-mind and spirit.


As one navigates the uncertainty of illness, Selene’s program Living Well with Serious Illness™ offers holistic, integrative support, care, and guidance to optimize one’s quality of life, find joy and a greater sense of wellbeing.
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